From Healing to Healed: Claiming Your New Identity

I’ve seen so many people on the healing journey that never quite ends…
I know women who have done their fair share of healing, yet something inside keeps them in this loop—an inability to truly move forward without the filter of their wounds.

I had a client tell me she felt like she was abandoning her inner child.
There was guilt in thriving. Guilt was still leading the way.

But the truth is: there is no separation between the inner child and you.
We may go back and create rituals for integration purposes, but you feel abandoned because you’ve abandoned yourself—when you don’t step into the power that lives inside.
It’s important that we integrate and align with a new identity.

How often do we hold ourselves prisoner without realizing it?

What are the thoughts we allow to run in our minds so carelessly, so habitually?
What are the stories we tell ourselves? Are we still identifying with our wounds, with our brokenness?

If you continue to tell yourself that you are damaged or that you're broken—then that’s all you’ll ever be.

The little you wants to thrive.

We get so attached to the idea of who we once were that we don’t allow ourselves to be anything else.
It’s a bad habit.

What if your inner child comes with you?
What if you allow her to change—to grow—to no longer be a prisoner of her circumstances?

When I was doing my own somatic work—learning to feel safe in my body and focusing on “feel my feelings”—I let my mindset take a backseat.
That’s what the recipe called for at the time.
But what we once needed for survival and healing must change as we heal and grow.
The recipe is always changing.

And yes, we do go from healing to healed—if we let ourselves.

Our habits around thoughts are foundational.
We can’t be careless or unintentional with them.
Feelings come and go—they are our compass, our guide—but they are not meant to make a permanent home in your body.

We must let them move through us.
Detach from the stories.
Make new stories.

And make it a habit to think only the thoughts you want to speak into life.

During one of my own “aha moments,” I created a small cord-cutting ceremony around releasing my old identity.
Everything I wanted to be, I claimed it as I am.
And wildly enough—that’s how I started showing up. It was almost instant.

Any thought that popped into my head telling me I was less than or broken—I simply wouldn’t allow it.
No judgment. Just a re-frame.

My overall demeanor changed. It elevated.

It’s true—whatever you say you are, you become.
Especially if you are a person of integrity.
It’s like keeping a promise.

Stepping into your new identity is to honor the old.
It’s to thank it for how far it’s brought you… what it’s taught you… and set it free.

There is nothing more empowering than to boldly own your new identity, and be intentional with the way you show up in the world.

In Devotion to Truth and Soul Remembrance,

— Nicole